My First Date After Divorce

9:29 AM Keenya Kelly 3 Comments

Sooo I recently went on a lunch date....

For those of you that are like HOLD UP... Aren't you married? Nope, not anymore. It's been almost 2 years since leaving a not so great situation, but you're gonna have to wait for the book to come out for that.... Let's focus on this date shall we...

I was asked on a lunch date recently and since I'm healed and ready to date I said sure. I'm very new to Texas and haven't been extremely social due to being busy with my businesses and such... But I did just so happen to meet this guy.

You may be asking yourself, I wonder what made her say yes to him...

Well.. He was well dressed, personable, mannerable and didn't run for the hills when I started talking about my relationship and love for Jesus... So he was already winning...

So we went to a place in Houston I've never heard of... Even though initially I objected to the type of food I saw online, but I said well he may know something I don't so let me just go.

Initially I didn't know how he knew my car, but I'm sure my VIRGINIA license plates gave me away. He approached my car, helped me out the door and with a big gigantic smile, he said hello and complimented me... Cute right?!?

As we stood in line I asked what I should order since I was new to this type of cuisine when he proceeded to say, let me order for you. My immediate thoughts went to the movie "In her shoes," where two lawyers at a law firm went to dinner... She went hesitantly, and he proceeded to order the very best meal for her... Of course she was apprehensive but allowed him to just as I did....

I wasn't impressed by his willingness to order, but my willingness to fall back and allow him to.
As we approached the table he proceeded to pulling out my chair and made sure I was OK before he sat down.

I know you ladies are like heyyyyyy... Was he black? Lol yes ladies he was black!!!

He took my hand and prayed for the meal, the conversation and the fellowship.... Good job Dude!!
And then the test to try the meal.... It was GREAT!!! Healthy for me and tasty to my belly!!

Sooooo why blog about this... Well you guys know I'm fairly transparent when I need to be and I know that there's some of you out there that have gone through a divorce, going through a divorce or in a bad dating relationship that needs to end.... But you feel like there's no way you'll meet anyone else...

While I didn't feel that way... I was embarrassed, disappointed and hurt... But YEARS ago I promised myself 1 thing... "No matter what a man does, I'll never make the next man suffer for his bad behaviors/decisions." So when I met this guy and decided to agree to a date I told myself, be in the moment and enjoy the time. Let him be him and you be you..

But I also told myself, I deserve to be treated as the prize that I am to a man. The bible says "he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from the lord."

I recognize my imperfections and areas of great weakness, but I more so understand who I am, what I bring to the table and how much a man will come up after being with me... And I'm not talking financially, I'm talking spiritually and everything that comes with a woman that is sold out for Jesus and fully submitted.

So if you're reading this and you've been challenged or are being challenged in your faith with being loved like you should... Then I want you to hold onto my faith... The faith of a woman that was betrayed, hurt and mistreated, but had the courage to end it, get healed, delivered and set free....

..... But also believe again.

Now I'm not in a relationship with this guy by any means. He doesn't know where I live and only got a hug outta me.... Lol!

But my point is...  My first date after divorce proved that #1 I STILL GOT IT and #2 I am the prize and worthy to be found...

Take Care XOXO


  1. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing this new chapter in your life. It is such an encouragement!

  2. Wow, this was an amazing blog post!
    Yes most definitely let a man love you for you because we are worthy😍

  3. Praise God!! Thank you so very much for the encouragement!!!